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I mean, there's a difference between looking to secretly fatten someone and wanting to be secretly fattened.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to be secretly fattening.

Kind of! Many of my fantasies revolve around CNC, but not so much secrecy, as... Manipulation!

Like, i want my hypothetical feeder to jerk me off way too much, and then seductively ask me to consent to her feeding me to completely immobility, promising me endless pleasure basically. So, stupid little me will agree, and once i get that fat she wouldnt need to ask to consent, she could litteraly force me to eat myself to death! O.o

I like a lot this element of faulty consent, and actually i think its more intimate than secrecy i think!

The important thing about fantasy is that it harms nobody outside the fictional characters in your own head. Remaining strictly fantasy, I enjoy the idea of secret feeding from the feeder side.

My completely unbacked speculation is that for a feedee this kind of fantasy allows them to do something they want (get fatter) without imposing judgement on themselves because it’s being done without their knowledge or active consent.

On the feeder side, I think there’s thrills and tension from the deception and manipulation needed to pull it off and the ever-present fear of being caught in the act. There’s also a power fantasy in being the hidden hand that changes someone else’s destiny without them being aware of it.

And there’s a sense of progress and satisfaction that comes in stages as the feedee fattens up over time. I once saw a post in the submission/domination forum from a feedee who liked the idea of discovering that they were being secretly measured and recorded by their feeder in an online journal with a running commentary for other feeders on their progress and the methods being used to fatten them up.

I imagine (again, speculation) that the appeal for that scenario is that there’s someone who cares strongly enough about the feedee to actively pay attention to their body and how it changes over time.

For my fantasy, I enjoy the idea of secretly changing long-term habits so that the feedee unknowingly keeps fattening themselves even if the secret feeder stops taking action. They lose contact with their feedee for two or three years, then when they run into them again the feeder is momentarily taken aback to see how much fatter the feedee got in their absence.

A brief flash of shock before they start to admire their own work. “Oh my God, I really did it. They’re changed forever.”

as a feeder, I have indeed fantasized about secretly feeding a girl.

I imagine finding someone, preferably someone who loves food as much as an actual feedee, and exploiting that. spoil her with sweets, maybe take her out to dinner a little too often. She'd be having too much fun indulging to think about it any deeper.

I'd continue this as long as possible before getting pressed about it. She notices her clothes feel tighter, her body a bit pudgier, and expresses her concerns. I try and convince her it's just relationship weight and that she looks beautiful with the extra pounds (she does). If that works, then I'd keep overfeeding her. Relishing in how soft she's become.

Eventually, there would be a breaking point and I'll have to come clean about what I've been doing. In a perfect world, I could explain this fetish to her, she'd be down, and I'll have converted her into a proper feedee. But since this fetish is so niche and kinda taboo, such an outcome is but a pipe dream...

Actually, it's probably because feedism is so niche that I find this fantasy so alluring. It's hard enough to find a devoted partner, and having her be into this fetish on top of that feels impossible. Being able to unleash my feeder tendencies, even if just for a little while, even if it's wrong, excites me.

damn thats hawt...watching someone grow fatter then not noticing, at first...n they realizes clothes getting snugger yet shrug it off.....n continue to accept seconds at dinner ect.....

Very hot